从老公的角度看试管婴儿疗程
当一对夫妻要做 #IVF试管疗程时,做丈夫的应该用什么态度来面对?常常有网友告诉我说,我的老公精子不好,可是他还是不能戒烟戒酒,好不配合。要知道,不孕症不只是女人的责任,男人也是有责任。这篇文章,是以男人的角度出发,里面分享身为丈夫应该如何帮助太太一起度过疗程,文章是英文内容,是奥莉爸爸写的,奥莉爸不会中文。分享给大家😊
IVF Journey, A Husband’s Perspective
Hi all, before reading further I would like to say this is NOT an instruction or tips for IVF and hopefully readers will understand my poorly written English. This is my journey as a father of the IVF baby girl. Why am I sharing all this? It is because my wife had a Facebook page of her IVF journey at https://facebook.com/ivfjourney2015/ and she told me that majorities (not all but most) feedback indicate husband not supportive enough to commit into a journey of IVF. I’m not a true supportive husband either, least I made up my mind to make it happen.
Let’s start with “Why IVF?”
We went for a fertilization test and results with;
Husband: Teratospermia (Human language, sperm is weak for fertilization process)
Wife: Unexplained infertility (I think this is easy to understand, there is for the confirming reason for this result and we don’t go for further test after it because it will consumes too much time and money)
We married and planned to have children late 2011, both our ages were 37 in 2015 because of late marriage. My wife introduced IVF because she does not want to give up and feels regretful in future and so do I. Maybe because I did too many regretful things in the past, now I do not want this happened to my wife. At least I do it better then ignoring it.
Preparation for IVF
Financially, I know it will involve amount of 20k – 30k “Ringgit Malaysia” in the whole process depending on the situation and this is only one chance for me. I don’t have the money for a second attempt because I need to allocate funds for delivery if success.
Mentally, I do some studies/research on IVF. The whole journey took 50 days and in one of the process my wife needs to do a self-injection daily. I quickly asked my wife “Daily injection?! Do I need to fetch you to clinic daily to do this?” She answered “No, we need to do this ourselves”. A final question from me going to be “How?!” After we sat down and discuss, we comes into conclusion and I will do the injection for her. This was the most painful and nervous moment I ever experience by poking a needle to my wife’s belly EVERYDAY!
Lifestyle, 6 months earlier. My wife told me the NO’s, NO alcohol NO smoking NO midnight wandering NO stress. I said, I will fly up to the skies like butterfly if I able to do all the NO’s. It’s like a mission impossible. How can a man like me not go out to social with friends without alcohol and smoke? The joke was sleeping early! You want me to social with my friends in breakfast or lunch time? At this time, she softly said “I really wants to have a cute baby in future, it looks more like a family. Furthermore, I don’t want to have regretful moments in future”. All these words came out of my love (wife), her words melted in my heart deeply. I told her “Ok, we will go for it BUT you will need to promise me ONE IMPORTANT thing. No matter the process success or not we only have one attempt we need to accept the truth and live happily without regret in future.” she agreed.
Commitment, this is not some empty promise. I made a huge commitment to change my lifestyle into zero alcohol, tobacco and lesser stress. If comparing the pain and suffers my wife will take in this journey e.g., injection, medication effects, hormone changes and all the effects from pregnancies to delivery, mine looks more alike small potatoes (looks much more simple). Trust me guys, don't compare it, if you do and more likely you're going loose badly. For the sake of making a better future, I had fulfilled this commitment.
IVF Journey Phase 1 “Unskilled Husband Injection”
Day 1, doctor consults us for Buserelin injection. I need to inject this medication into my wife's belly each day sharp at 8AM. The nurse had guided me side by side to do the first injection.
Day 2, I started my first injection to my wife's belly without anyone guiding beside. Feels a bit nervous because this time I'm doing it all by myself. I try to hum some music to distract my wife's from looking at the needle while injecting but still she is looking at it.
Day 3 - Day 15, sometime the injection hurting and causes bleeding/bruise to her. I need to find a new spot to inject every time and sees her bruise makes my pain in the heart too. My injection skills improved dramatically. She even told me that she doesn't feel pain like the beginning stages.
Day 16, follow up 2nd checkup. Doctor said, everything goes smoothly and added another medication to inject called Gonal-F to take home and start injecting on day 23. This message never surprises me because I've been told earlier, but just that the price to pay for this medication is quite costly.
Day 17 - Day 22, nothing much on these days and we just stick on the plan as usual.
IVF Journey Phase 2 “Stressful Night”
Day 23, Gonal F injections start today. This needle doesn't look same as those earlier, it comes with medication in it and look like a pen.
Day 24 - Day 26, side effects of the Gonal F medications started. My wife is feeling irritation at the injection site, fullness, bloating and tenderness in the lower abdomen due to the increasing size of the ovaries. Her mood changes dramatically as I can tell, but she endures it and tell me she can handle it.
Day 27, follow up 3rd checkup. Doctor said wife has eggs total of 12 and is ready for Transvaginal oocyte retrieval "Human language, Egg retrieval" at day 31.
Day 28 - Day 29, final injection of Gonal F. At day 29 night, I inject Ovidrel to wife belly to that causes the growth and release of a mature egg (ovulation) for day 31.
Day 30, resting whole day. Finally, we had a day without injection and worrying about holding any needles. Today we wondering about the egg growth, not knowing will the eggs grow more or still the same amount of 12.
Day 31, egg retrieval. 8 egg success retrieves and I give out my sperm for oocytes selection on the same day. Wife given cyclogest for oval protection after the egg retrieval.
IVF Journey Phase 3 “Hopeful Embryo Culture & Embryo Transfer”
Day 32 - Day 35, rest at home. We had pillow talk every night concerning about the growth of an embryo. We also look at sample growth stages of an embryo from the web to see what the current growth stage is.
Day 36, another hopeful and nervous morning. Doctor tells us the result of embryo culture as below;
Total Embryo Retrieve: 8
Embryo Qualified for ICSI: 6
Embryo Success until Cleavage Stage (Day 2 – Day 4): 3
Embryo Success until Blastocyst Stage (Day 5): 2
Embryo Qualified / Recommended for Transfer: 1
Both our eyes looked at each other, knowing only 1 Blastocyst Embryo available to transfer and doctor tell the same after it. I really do not know how to express both our feelings into words here, as we expected to have at least 2 Blastocyst out of 8 embryos and only left 1. We both agreed to proceed this only 1 Blastocyst transfer as this is the only choice we had. It's more likely walking on a 100ft tall string with no supports mission, a single error will fail the mission.
After the transfer process, wife given a room to rest for few hours. A nurse came and give us adjunctive medications, injections and advice while resting at room.
IVF Journey Phase 4 “The Final Moment of IVF”
Day 37 - Day 49, after the transfer. This period is known as 2WW (2 Weeks Wait) with adjunctive medications, injections and be very careful. I just let her sleep/rest more on the bed, I served her every meal in the room. We're also nervous and curious about pregnancy results on day 44, we tested with cheap pregnancy tester and get got a double line on it and we do have a little hope and joy with this result. On day 47, again we test, but this time with expensive pregnancy tester and the results double line again! We're so hopeful and happy at this moment. We really hope this result is true until the next checkup.
Day 50, final checkup. My wife goes for the hCG test by giving a sample of blood, we waited 2 hours for the results. While waiting, nurse guide us to a room to rest. Wife slept and I sat beside concerned on the hCG test results. 2 hours later, the doctor invited us to look for him. Before doctor speaks, while we are sitting down, my wife's eyes were starring in the hCG results number and she spotted the hCG number is 452. She smiles happily while doctor tells her "You are pregnant and congratulations! Come back after 2 weeks to scan for baby heartbeats. And please go out to the counter and ring the bell!”
Just Sharing My Thoughts
By all means, I’m not bragging about my success. I would like to say if anyone is planning on IVF, teamwork is very important and husband play a very important role to increase the success rate. Sometimes, I do feel like a spectator than a participant myself because I never experience any of the medical exams but this is not true. Every injection I put on her belly, I feel the pain in my heart as bad as she has on the belly. Ok, nothing much to share in this IVF journey and next time I might be sharing another journey as a Father! Here is my little baby girl Facebook page奥莉 Olivia Baby - 梁童心心 https://fb.me/oliviababylove if you wish to see her growth updates.
End.
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==[ 11/12 快樂愛分享互動時間 (Time to Share Happiness) ]==
好朋友們,早安! 今天是禮拜三 (Wednesday) , 「快樂愛分享互動時間又來了」! 大家今天用下列方式來互動一下,落實「愛分享」的精神吧!
今日主題: 分享一則最近你覺得讓你開心的笑話(中文笑話、英文笑話或是貼圖都可以)。
就讓我們所有的朋友一同分享感染你的快樂,一起度過美好的小週末吧!
Good morning, guys. It's Wednesday and it's our "Time to Share Happiness". Here is what you can do to share your happiness with us today.
Theme: Share a joke that made you happy lately. It can be an English joke, Chinese joke or just a comic strip.
Come and join us and share your happiness with all of our friends right here on the fan page on this happy Hump Day!
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♥ himechar [Special] ALS Ice Bucket Challenge 漸凍人冰桶挑戰 ♥ http://youtu.be/Qgt-YoMqZAk
First, I'd like to state that I'm against 1) the challenge to donate structure, 2) the waste of water, and 3) ALS Association doing animal testing.
Raising awareness through creativity and fun is good, but it's becoming more of a contest and joke at times. It's a horrible disease and shouldn't be portrayed as anything like fun. My own father is a cancer survivor, if I were to see the disease in the social media this way, I would be f*ing pissed. Do the ends justify the means? How many celebs recorded the video and donated without putting much thought? How many of you have been watching those viral videos, had a good laugh, but not donating to any charity?
Therefore, I wouldn't be recording this video if I was not challenged by a fellow streamer friend. Hopefully you may get to understand ALS as a disease, like any other fundraising campaigns in need of public attention. I won't be naming anyone in particular, as I believe donations should NOT be a challenge or a hype. It's a selfless habit and one should take his own time to consider the causes that he cares most about.
Here are more information on different causes that you could help out:
ALS Association: http://alsa.pub30.convio.net/
Animal Rescue Team Taiwan: http://www.savedogs.org/english/
World Vision for children: http://www.worldvision.org/
Charity: Water: http://www.charitywater.org/
Sorry, I'm so serious.
May we all have a little more love for each other in this big big world. <3
我中文可能表達不當,請包涵。首先,我是反對1)捐助是挑戰的形式、2)浪費水、3)漸凍人研究採動物實驗。這樣的創意與好玩引起社會大眾注意確實是達到了,可是它很多時候變得扭曲像競賽像玩笑。這個病症是殘酷的,一點都不該是這樣的媒體形象。試問有多少公眾人物錄了影片、捐了也沒認識它太多?有多少觀眾看了很多冰桶挑戰影片,笑了,卻沒有捐助任何慈善團體?為了達到目的,就可以不擇手段嗎?所以如果不是被友善的實況主點名,我不會錄這個影片。或許我的觀眾因此而認識這個病症,開始了解其他需要被關注的募款。我不會點名任何人,因為捐助該是自發的習慣,無須挑戰或流行。每一個人都有能力去捐助這個世界,多一點愛與關懷,花一點時間選擇你想要支持的目標。抱歉我太嚴肅~ <3
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#himechar #video #icebucketchallenge #IBC #ALS #water #donation #charity #animaltesting #animalrescue
it's a joke中文 在 DREAM清醒夢LUCID Youtube 的最讚貼文
大家好,這個影片完全只是讓大家笑笑。所以請不用緊張。
我們都知道在這中文的教學當中沒有一個是對的翻譯。
你可以在外面試試看,但你可能會得到別人白眼。
如果有一天你在外面看到老外這樣子跟你說話,就知道這外國人大概看過我的影片。(還沒看到最後結束...)
好的,我相信會有人幫我留言正確的。
所以我就不在影片多放一次了,我想這樣也比較有趣。
謝謝 Sara支持我玩這個遊戲~
六月見!
Hey everyone,
This was just a joke, so don't go crazy. None of those things are correct translations. You can try them out in public but you may get a frosty reaction ;) I'm sure someone will write the correct translations below so I won't write them here, it's more fun that way! Thank you Sarah for being such a sport, you are the best! :) See you in June!
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it's a joke中文 在 HimeChar 曉玲 Youtube 的最讚貼文
First, I'd like to state that I'm against 1. the challenge to donate structure, 2. the waste of water, and 3. ALS Association doing animal testing.
Raising awareness through creativity and fun is good, but it's becoming more of a contest and joke at times. It's a horrible disease and shouldn't be portrayed as anything like fun. My own father is a cancer survivor, if I were to see the disease in the social media this way, I would be f*ing pissed. Do the ends justify the means? How many celebs recorded the video and donated without putting much thought? How many of you have been watching those viral videos, had a good laugh, but not donating to any charity?
Therefore, I wouldn't be recording this video if I was not challenged by a fellow streamer friend. Hopefully you may get to understand ALS as a disease, like any other fundraising campaigns in need of public attention. I won't be naming anyone in particular, as I believe donations should NOT be a challenge or a hype. It's a selfless habit and one should take his own time to consider the causes that he cares most about.
Here are more information on different causes that you could help out:
ALS Association: http://alsa.pub30.convio.net/
Animal Rescue Team Taiwan: http://www.savedogs.org/english/
World Vision for children: http://www.worldvision.org/
Charity: Water: http://www.charitywater.org/
Sorry, I'm so serious.
May we all have a little more love for each other in this big big world.
我中文可能表達不當,請包涵。首先,我是反對1.捐助是挑戰的形式、2.浪費水、3.漸凍人研究採動物實驗。這樣的創意與好玩引起社會大眾注意確實是達到了,可是它很多時候變得扭曲像競賽像玩笑。這個病症是殘酷的,一點都不該是這樣的媒體形象。試問有多少公眾人物錄了影片、捐了也沒認識它太多?有多少觀眾看了很多冰桶挑戰影片,笑了,卻沒有捐助任何慈善團體?為了達到目的,就可以不擇手段嗎?所以如果不是被友善的實況主點名,我不會錄這個影片。或許我的觀眾因此而認識這個病症,開始了解其他需要被關注的募款。我不會點名任何人,因為捐助該是自發的習慣,無須挑戰或流行。每一個人都有能力去捐助這個世界,多一點愛與關懷,花一點時間選擇你想要支持的目標。抱歉我太嚴肅~
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有一個外國人很喜歡中文字
連他家的狗都用中文取名
叫做來福
有一天他帶著來福散步
結果來福被一台闖紅燈的車子撞倒在地
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傷心的抱起來福
大聲哭喊
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